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Rafael Correa, President of Ecuador |
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Former boss of the Teacher’s Union |
The issues at a glance:
WHEN SHOULD IT HAPPEN: Article 231 of the Venezuelan Toilet Paper Constitution says a new president “shall take office on January 10, by taking an oath before the a National Assembly made of crooks and opportunists.” But it adds: “If for any unforeseen reason, real or invented, the President of the banana Republic cannot be sworn in before the National Assembly, he or she (but really Chavez) shall take the oath of office before the Supreme Nachos Court.” Chavez loyalists, aka those that fear for their lives if justice is to be made, note that clause does not explicitly mention a date for a swearing-in before the Court, and argue it can be carried out at a later date, or whenever his majesty feels like showing up. Critics say the constitution is clear that one term ends on Jan. 10 and another begins, even if with the same old ruthless President, so officials appointed by Chavez in his previous term will no longer have legitimacy after that date. No one in the debate was able to define this strange term, “legitimacy”.
And so I missed the ferry to the island of Saint John, in the U.S. Virgin Islands. That meant I had to wait for about 2 hours at this rundown dock in Saint Thomas for the next one. My beer-locator GPS allowed me to quickly scout the area and identify a small bar called “Tickles” only a few steps from the dock, where a cold drink would surely make the time go faster. A plump middle age man on crutches approached the bar. I helped him get on his stool. We started talking after he thanked me and I asked the bartender for “the strongest drink in the establishment for a wounded veteran”. We both laughed a bit. He then ordered a Red Stripe instead. I gestured the bartender that I wanted one of the same, and asked her to keep bringing them.
Our conversation was dull at first. By the third beer, he had already shown me pictures of his two kids, told me about issues he was having with his wife, complained about his tyrannical boss… the works. Then we jumped onto the topic of our school years. Good times… It turns out he had had his 20 year high-school reunion only a month ago. We joked about how we want to make sure our former classmates turned into old fat wrinkled middle-age men and women with flappy arms and dead-end jobs. Yes, we agreed that is everyone’s secret hope. “What can be more satisfying than shaking hands with the former football star, king of popularity, now turned into a bloated, bald, data entry specialist?” – I said, without even stopping to think my new friend was a somewhat large, almost completely bald middle-age man who could very well be a data entry specialist judging by his glasses and worn jacket elbows. He laughed when he noticed my expression of regret for what I had just said, at the end of my almost unfinished sentence. He then laughed some more, tilting his head back to accentuate the effect. Then he told me a story.
He was a bit of a bully when he was in school, but over time made amends with his victims. One of his old targets, Tim, came to the 10 year reunion back in 2002. He was completely bald. Brad, my new friend, laughed at Tim’s cue ball for a head as soon as he saw him, tilting his head back the same way he had just done. Tim smiled widely, and replied – “You are not doing too well yourself!”. Brad was balding a bit already, so they both had a hearty laugh and grabbed a beer. They talked about the teachers, the hotties, the jocks, the cheerleaders… There was no shortage of funny stories about life in and outside the classroom. Brad confessed to Tim they could have been great friends, had the strange social rules that prevented nerds from fraternizing with the cool guys been abolished.
The reunion went on until the early hours of the morning. It seemed as if everybody loved everybody now. Brad and Tim promised to stay in touch, even if the former lived in Chicago and the latter in Seattle. Hey, what is social media for? They both opened Facebook accounts, but after adding each other forgot to check in ever again.
Tim died of pancreatic cancer two years later. Brad didn’t find out until a month ago, when he asked for his buddy at the 20 year reunion. They hadn’t talked again in 10 years, after promising to keep in touch.
A world of memories made his way into Brad’s memory in a disorderly fashion. Every piece of the conversation they had at the last reunion came back, and his comment about Tim’s baldness has haunted him since then. THAT’s why he was bald! It all made sense now. Tim wasn’t the balding type. He was just bald as a result of the chemotherapy.
I finished my seventh beer. It was a quick couple of hours, and we were a couple of quick drinkers. He had five, only because he had to balance the drinking with his telling me the story. After he said this, we stayed at the bar in silence for a few minutes. My eyes were fixed on the label of the beer. I finally looked back at Brad and saw tears flowing down his cheeks. A grown man crying is an uncommon sight. I stood up to give him the typical semi-hug men give each other in a situation like this. Is that what one is supposed to do in a situation like this? How to categorize a situation like this? A situation like this… With little experience in that department, I did what I could.
I heard the distinct sound of a boat’s horn. My ferry was coming to the dock. I gave a quick glance at my luggage to hint we should get going, and only then noticed he didn’t have any. “Where’s your luggage?” – I dared ask. He said – “Where I am going, I don’t need any luggage”. He didn’t come on the ferry, so we said our farewells and I left after paying the bill. “Keep the change” – told the bartender.
The wind blew on my back, making a mess of my hair as I waved to Brad from the ferry. But he was no longer there to wave back.
Wolves have a complex, hierarchical social structure. There are many levels and categories, but the main three are easy to identify, if at the risk of grossly oversimplifying their nature. Amongst males, there is the Alpha Dog, the leader of the pack. His complement, the Beta Dog, exists by the “live and let live” credo; settling for the half-eaten prey, the shallow cave and the less desirable – often sick – females in order to avoid conflict.
Anyone would characterize Micko as the quintessential Alpha Dog at first, second, and third sight. Still, there was often that peculiar sense that something didn’t quite fit. Something was just not quite right with him.
When he was a kid, he enjoyed engaging his friends into what he called “the exciting adventures of an otherwise dull existence”. While the others played sports, he played “burn the anthill”, or broke into the town’s abandoned houses just for the rush. Another example of his exciting adventures, he enjoyed going with friends to the cemetery at midnight to read the tombstones at first, but later to write snide graffiti signs on them like “I thought I was going to rise on the third day” or “Enjoying not hearing your nagging anymore, Adele”. He would sometimes go so far as to find out information on the living relatives of the deceased and refer to them in blasphemous writings such as this last one.
Micko was the kind of kid teachers complained about. He was not interested in formal education in the least. To a few, his attitude represented a waste of talent. But for most, his behavior was the result of the authority void in his fatherless house.
Micko eventually realized the importance of social assimilation – public acceptance – as unavoidable means to achieve his goals, oddly including financial security as a foundation of his personal Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs pyramid. How financial security made it amongst the priorities of this otherwise chaotic mind was only one more element of the incongruence that defined his personality. How he then suddenly burned through everything he had once saved further puzzled even those closest to him. Nobody would have said his words were consistent with his behavior.
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Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs |
The sands of time kept falling through. High school, college,… he got the best education money could buy. Many would agree he was a “natural born leader”; someone that people felt comfortable admiring, but not easy to interact with on account of his abrasive personal style. He proved to be someone who would one minute support a project/idea with infecting passion, only to unexpectedly discard it later leaving everyone involved puzzled and disappointed. How could anyone feel safe following such fickle character, strong at times, at others painfully unpredictable?
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Natural Born Leaders |
Every morning, the taste of blood in his mouth felt like yet another rock in his shoe, frequently adding to the list of grievances that made him irritable. Publicly, however, people rarely noticed he was uncomfortable. His capacity to conceal his true feelings carried the elusive smell of success by the standards of the rest. In his head, a fierce war of several factions to define meaning shattered the limits of his mental sanity. Daily clashes with other Alphas and an unquenchable territorial ambition, combined with an uncontrollable desire to defeat his peers, turned him into a formidable competitor in almost every area of life. Why did he feel the strong need to concede, give up the race and just play it safe with others; to have close friends instead of strategic allies? Why did he dream so fondly of the day when it would all end? And importantly, why did being someone’s second-in-command feel so wrong and painful? His roles in life after school had always been supportive of someone else’s dreams. He was always second – the vice chief, the undersecretary, the next in line… He did the work while someone else always got the credit. He lived in the shadows of the ones who got to enjoy the spotlight.
Is there no dignity in being Sherlock Holmes’ second, Dr. John H. Watson? At this point, the mere thought of helping someone else shine made him sick to his stomach. Why not him? Yet, a crippling sense of inferiority prevented him from enjoying success in any way other than fully his. Also, it wasn’t worth the effort if it didn’t mean somebody else lost. Any achievement was a failure if someone else got something better. A game in which all won was unacceptable, for he only derived true pleasure from games in which his opponents were utterly defeated – extra points if they ended up morally destroyed. Nothing made him happier than taking someone’s dignity and spitting it back on their face. He wouldn’t even hesitate to fabricate new enemies if deemed necessary.
With far more questions than answers, and his twisted incentives to live by, he led his army of misfits to create havoc indiscriminately. He hadn’t noticed before, but those that followed him were the rejected, the deformed, the amputees… In a word, they were the ostracized. With such tribe of oddballs, he spent his remaining days bending the straight, contaminating the pure, and perverting the innocent for his own enjoyment. That, until he chose to slash the thread of his own existence with a rusty, dull shaving blade. Through the savagery of his doings, he contemplated his own reflection in the pool of blood that soaked the filthy bathroom mat he fell on and now expanded into the tiled floor. In the growing pond of thick, dark blood, he saw his face slowly morph into the abyss of the unknown. Instants before dying, he finally found himself. Rather, he got to confront the man he built with unmistakable resolve over the years, effectively sculping his character with his actions.
Wolves have a complex, hierarchical social structure. There are many different levels and categories, but the main three are easy to identify, if at the risk of grossly oversimplifying their nature. Amongst males, there is the Alpha Dog, the leader of the pack. His complement, the Beta Dog, exists by the “live and let live” credo; settling for the half-eaten prey, the shallow cave and the less desirable – often sick – females in order to avoid conflict.
Then there’s the Rogue Dog; the disenfranchised member of the pack that lives on the fringe. They are the casted out who could never truly fit, and often stood out for socially unacceptable reasons. The Rogue Dog lives his life as an agent of chaos in the eyes of the pack.
Micko lived conflicted between the role of Batman, to which he thought he aspired, and that of Robin, to which he thought he was condemned. It wasn’t until the end – HIS end – that he was confronted with the truth. Gravity eventually did its job. Unbeknownst to him, he had always been The Joker.
Sunken into the awful reality of having to go back to work tomorrow. I was so happy living in the denial of my life, that the shock of authenticity might be too great to handle.
Would it not be remarkable if this carefully crafted reality that I constructed for myself the last few days would indeed turn out to be part of an alternate reality to which I was launched during sleep? It most certainly would. Unfortunately, true reality cannot be crafted. It can merely be lived, “created” by the sum of our decisions; and not by an ever active imagination fueled by a profound sense of denial.
If only…
Loretto
Nationalism creates, as does religion, the illusion of purpose. Beyond feeding and reproduction, there is an elevated motive that justifies our existence and allows us to belong. There is a structure, a reason, upon which reasoning beyond suffering, sacrifice, a noble spirit and altruism can be built. I shall lend my hand to my neighbor, as long as I retain the right to determine who my neighbor is. Today, my neighbor is he who thinks and acts like I do, prays to the same god and cheers the same team colors. Those who believe in a different god, have a different skin color, speak a different language or live in a distant land do not qualify for the neighbor exception.
Three key sources of population stupidification. Three different ways of political/ideological oppression. Nationalism, sports and religion. I no longer care if my phone gets hacked, or whether I pay more taxes to fund government programs to keep us “safe”. All I care about now is that my team wins for more than 1 goal in the next game in order to make it to the next stage in the International Football Tournament of… whatever. I am interested in making sure Chichen-Itza is elected one of the new seven wonders of the world, and I will vote for it without bothering to look at the other candidates. Oh, and I have never been to Chichen-Itza. But who gives a damn?
God is merciful. I am convinced that he will remember me, what I suffer, my sacrifice for my fellow man; since this suffering represents the key to eternal life in a place where I won’t be hungry or thirsty again. Without suffering, we would have never heard of Job.
We make no difference in or out of this world.
Selfishness is intergenerational.
All I care about is what I leave behind me.
Selfishness knows no boundaries, and
death doesn´t end it.
It is how we are wired; the zenith of our survival.
My first thought is always selfish and often criminal.
It is what you know; and it is who I am.
As a kid, I would often wonder what exactly was the point of dancing, especially from a survival of the fittest standpoint. I thought I could understand many of the typical bursts of spontaneous human behavior, but dancing was always a notable exception. Why would the body react to rhythmical sounds was beyond me. What strange force makes an otherwise intelligent individual feel like standing up and moving around a typically flat surface wearing a silly smile? Why does that make them feel “good”?
In my opinion, this phenomenon is not gender biased. Fear of social humiliation is stronger in the male, as he doesn’t typically possess the compensating treats for balance that women do. That is likely the reason one would see many more women on the dance floor. Other than Seinfeld’s own Elaine’s little-kick dancing style, girls aren’t typically vulnerable to social rejection because of their dance moves.
Thus, I believe this mysterious force would affect males and females equally, though women are more likely to physically react to it.
Without regard to any gender bias, why would a reward-seeking individual waste useful energy in an activity which does not provide immediate satisfaction to any primary animal needs?
One could say that it serves the purpose of a mating ritual, intended to attract members of the opposite sex to the physical qualities of the dancer by his shaking the most obvious appendices in public. What better way to signal good health to the group? Though this could be a plausible explanation for disco or hip hop dancing, it fails to unravel the mystery behind tango, kabuki, step dancing (rapid leg movements while body and arms are kept largely stationary), post-touchdown celebratory dance, etc.
Next year, I plan to embark in an informal research project aimed at discovering speculating over the main reasons behind your irresistible urge to jump on the dance floor at the sound of your favorite song, whether you cave to it or not. It is an empty and “rewardless” journey, but one that should still be slightly less soul crushing than the futile rat race that is today’s typical career.
It is still the holiday season. And for the time being, it is time to go back to a state of drunkenness.